So, Courtney has a hearing regarding her release on Sept 25th or 26th. We will be praying that what is best for the baby will happen. When she is released, it's likely we will be asked to meet her within a week or two. EXCITING! NERVOUS! YIKES! So, I also need some suggestions.
It is not uncommon to bring a 'gift' to the birth mother when you meet her. I asked my sister in law what she did and something she mentioned she felt was right for her birth mom was a willow tree figurine for example. Our birth mom doesn't have her own home and this type of idea is great but not right for her. So... i would love suggestions.... I was thinking of finding out her favorite color and crocheting her a scarf for the winter.
As far as the time of placement of the baby there is many times a more meaningful gift shared. Michael and I have agreed that we would like to give her a ring we found that to us, tells her, "You will always be a part of our hearts and we will always be a part of yours". We want her to wear it and know we are thinking of her and always grateful for the choice she made to place her son with us. Here is the ring.
http://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/Item.aspx?sku=GRP01974&mcat=148204&cid=288155&search_params=s+3-p+6-c+288155-r+-x+-n+6-ri+-ni+0-t+
Friday 9/19/08:
I think I confused a lot of folks so, I'll clarify. smile. There are two seperate gifts to give...
1) at our first meeting (scarf and/or something else, preferably casual cause she can still change her mind, I don't know her personality etc)
2) at placement (the ring, likely for sure)
Thank you for all the comments so far. I love them all! more, More MORE!!!! lol.
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you have the most beautiful of souls miss lila. i hope you know i read your entries as often as i can and can't wait to one day soon hug you and sit down with you and talk about it all. you are in my heart always.<3.
Lila,
That is a beautiful idea! The first thought that came to my mind was a nice little journal but the ring is perfect too!
You guys are awesome and we'll keep praying that all goes well :)
I LOVE, LOVE the idea of the ring as a truly heartfelt symbol. But, I also love your idea of the handloved scarf - I'm sure Both would be cherished.....
Hope you don't mind if I leave my 2 cents! I think the scarf is a great idea. Who doesn't love a homemade gift, right? The ring is incredibly thoughtful and I think would be a perfect way to express unsaid thoughts.
I like the scarf idea for the first meeting. The ring is AWESOME for when she has the baby. Who doesn't love a blue Tiffany's box??
I love the ring idea...it will be something she can cherish forever!
I understand what you were talking about with my last sentence about "being in my heart". I love both of your ideas for the birthmom, especially the sentiment of the ring- a heartfelt symbol of gratitude.
That is a great idea!! The ring is beautiful. You should also look at www.jamesavery.com. He is a Texas based religious-inspired jeweler. Lincoln "bought" me the Mother's Love charm for my necklace and I love it!
Keeping ya'll in our prayers!
Lila,
I think you are right on with both of your gifts. We did similar things and it was easier after we met her too. We found out more about her and what we thought would mean something to our birth moms. I think both of those ideas would be great though.
I think the scarf idea is perfect... and the ring is beautiful and so meanigful. I think she will cherish both forever. And maybe one day she will understand how blessed this baby is to be sent to your family. I am praying for you!
I love the ring idea. I think that is such a great idea. I am sure it will make her feel special. I love the scarf idea- but it's not quite cold yet. It would just have to be stored for a few more months. Hmmm... not sure.
Both are wonderful ideas and both really show just how special the two of you are - as loving, caring people. It is truly reflected.
You are my inspiration sugar!
And just so you know - I check your blog EVERYDAY - yes EVERYDAY! :-)
Hugs to you and Michael - Love, H
I love the ring idea too. I don't know if I would give it too her this time when you meet or actually when the baby is born. So maybe the scarf or and then the more significant gift the next time you meet her.
Lila, I love hearing your adoption progress! Would you mind if I put both your blogs on my website? Only because I want to look more popular...
thank you for all the comments so far! i love the encouragement and look forward to more!
Hey Lila, I think your ideas are wonderful and hope I get a baby shower invite. Ginger Scott
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