Friday, March 19, 2010
Adoption frustrations
Our family is gearing up to be put back in the Adoption pool. We are feeling pulled to it again and are really motivated. We are attempting to continue with LDS Family Services but have now called and left a message for our new caseworker 3 times with no response. I cannot begin to express to you how disappointing and frustrating it is to get no response from the people who are assigned and (will be) paid to help you. We want our family to grow and Adoption is the only way for us to do that because of Infertility. Not only do we feel it's in the Lord's hands as to whether we get to have more children in our home, it is also up to our caseworkers and agency to do the right thing. I am sad to say we have had bad feelings towards the handling of Evan's Adoption process (left it out of the blog for fear that it could be misinterpreted but it was a bad time) but since his finalization it has been the pure bliss it should have been since he took his first breath. It felt bad to have those feelings and for me, it has taken me this long to let them go or to even document them in this way. I don't want to repeat that process but it is difficult to leave our agency cause we can't afford to go to another. Part of me doesn't want them to get away with ignoring us as they may do it to others. I've been really reflecting on it lately and feel this challenge was possibly even given to me, to learn from but also to push myself to confront this situation in a constructive way. Part of this post is to let you know what is going on. It feels good to type it and let some of that sadness from those old feelings go. We are praying for our agency to respond to us and for us to be patient with them but also for an adoption situation to arise when the time is right. We would love for any of you that would like to, to join us. (we also have a friend named Hallie trying to add to their family through adoption if you don't mind to add her name to you prayer). We feel blessed to have so many friends who love us and support us through our Adoption's. Hopefully we will get to have more children. Thank you for reading. xoxo
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Wow. It is truly bitter that the adoption process is so uncertain and difficult to begin with for both parties, it is really so sad to hear that the agency treats their potential client families like this. Ah, prayers, prayers, prayers. I'm so sorry Lila.
Contact Steve Sunday at the LDSFS Headquarters in Salt Lake. I got passive responses from him when I talked to him before but it may be worth a try. Or find out who the regional director is. I know ours is Rick Hill and crazy enough he lives in Logan, UT. But may be worth a try. Good Luck! I called my caseworker with a potential situation on a Friday and she did not get back to me until the following Tuesday. I can empathize with you the tiniest of bits. We will keep you in our prayers.
L & M ~ I had you on my mind ALL day on Sat. during my training. Your frustration is understood, however, I truly feel HELP is on the way. These people are SO slammed with SO much - - - NOT making excuses for them, just a fact. SO, let's move forward with high hopes, knowing there is a baby waiting to join your sweet family. This will happen sooner than later. . . I'm here for you!!!
You are on my prayer hot line for sure! And adding Hallie too. Here's hoping for more positive experiences and responses with your agency. We have all best wishes for your growing family!
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